I Is for Incest: Killing Shame is a distillation of everything I’ve learned after 40 years on this planet, having survived incest abuse at the hands of my father. It is pure gold. It’s what I learned so you don’t have to. It’s got codes, transmissions, and wisdom embedded into every poem so you can break out of your own prison of self-imposed limitations. It tells you how to break free, but not before bringing you through the underworld to get there—I don’t hold anything back. It traces my journey from childhood to the present moment—what it was like, what I faced, and what I overcame. Read these poems with your Heart, not your mind. They will take you where you need to go.
This book is also my offering to the world, to others who still live in the prison of silence and shame, to those who want to better understand and support survivors, and to those who simply want to show up for themselves better. It is a rally cry—for every person on the planet to stand up, take up ground, and reclaim their right to take up space in their own lives.
Above all, this book represents the fulfillment of a promise that I made to myself as child—that I would come back for me. And come back, I fucking did.
I will not silence my Voice. I will not shame myself or others who have survived the unspeakable. I will not look away from the weeping wound that is poisoning humanity. This is how we heal ourselves. This is how we take back our lives. We use our voices, and we say the things that need to be said. We do the things that need to be done. We take a stand. No more pretending, no more hiding. We’re healing the world, and this is how we do it. One voice, one person, one “no” at a time.
I will no longer abandon my younger self to suffer in the shadows of silence or shame. And I will reach back and pull out everyone else who thinks they have to live there too. We are not shameful. We are not wrong. This is us. And I’m proud. I’m ready. Are you?
I Is for Incest: Killing Shame is a distillation of everything I’ve learned after 40 years on this planet, having survived incest abuse at the hands of my father. It is pure gold. It’s what I learned so you don’t have to. It’s got codes, transmissions, and wisdom embedded into every poem so you can break out of your own prison of self-imposed limitations. It tells you how to break free, but not before bringing you through the underworld to get there—I don’t hold anything back. It traces my journey from childhood to the present moment—what it was like, what I faced, and what I overcame. Read these poems with your Heart, not your mind. They will take you where you need to go.
This book is also my offering to the world, to others who still live in the prison of silence and shame, to those who want to better understand and support survivors, and to those who simply want to show up for themselves better. It is a rally cry—for every person on the planet to stand up, take up ground, and reclaim their right to take up space in their own lives.
Above all, this book represents the fulfillment of a promise that I made to myself as child—that I would come back for me. And come back, I fucking did.
I will not silence my Voice. I will not shame myself or others who have survived the unspeakable. I will not look away from the weeping wound that is poisoning humanity. This is how we heal ourselves. This is how we take back our lives. We use our voices, and we say the things that need to be said. We do the things that need to be done. We take a stand. No more pretending, no more hiding. We’re healing the world, and this is how we do it. One voice, one person, one “no” at a time.
I will no longer abandon my younger self to suffer in the shadows of silence or shame. And I will reach back and pull out everyone else who thinks they have to live there too. We are not shameful. We are not wrong. This is us. And I’m proud. I’m ready. Are you?